Most of you will not change at all this year, in fact, you will DEvolve grooving more and more negative habits and pulling further and further away from your goals in life.
If you’ve made a New Year’s Resolution list, it is likely you’ve already broken many of them, if not all of them - and it’s only the 5th of January.
Why is that?
Wrong goals
Wrong expectations
For the most part, you (nor I) can change ourselves.
We cannot become that guy we view in our mind’s eye. And, once we begin to bump up against the extreme resistance that is in the way of the REAL change that CAN happen, we stop - we are either too lazy, or too resistant to the discomfort required.
The truth hurts, and I seriously doubt you’ll be in a new position next year, “being” the guy you’re looking to become.
BUT…there is a way to GROW (notice I don’t use the word “change”) and EVOLVE.
I think the American obsession with “Change” (sorry Barack) is so extreme that it’s practically an epidemic. Just venture to the self-help aisle at your local Barnes & Noble (the main winner in the self-help movement btw), and take stock for yourself. There are so many books in those aisles that promote “change” when that is exactly impossible.
You can GROW, for sure.
You can BECOME.
You can EVOLVE.
But the “you” that does will, for the most part, remain the same.
So, lets temper our expectations here - the you that you have become is more than likely the guy you will live with for the next, say 30, 40, 50 or more years.
I believe in growth though, and becoming. I believe in cause & effect. I believe that we can evolve, over time, into better versions of ourselves.
We can grow self-esteem and social skills, becoming more attractive to women, improving our dating lives.
But, if your expectations are (secretly…) to become a different guy, you will lose and likely become so frustrated that you give up.
So, a GOOD and HEALTHY New Year’s Resolution list should be about what you intend to LEARN for the upcoming year. I don’t even believe in the cessation of negative habits as an effective approach - like, say, “stop smoking”. What I do believe in though is to improve one’s overall “health” which will naturally make me want to stop smoking. See that?
I did smoke a few years back, and the only way I stopped was to go to the gym every day, and feel better, which made me grossed out by the smell of cigarattes and caused me to nearly throw up when I smoked. THAT got me over the hump.
What skills or habits can you develop? What “something” do you want to learn?
Here’s my list for 2009:
Each Wednesday - a WTF day (I do WTF I want)
Study the works of: Fellini, Picasso, Emerson.
Study Hinduism
Take a 1-week farming class in the summertime (I want to know more about natural cycles, the earth, and the food that I eat)
Start a poker group in my hood
Yoga 2x/week, Gym 3x/week (yoga/gym occur in the same location)
See what I mean? I’m looking to LEARN this year, and I am doing so by seeing what I’m truly interested in, and moving towards the information and skill that I desire.
For guys who want to improve their dating and social lives, and who want to attract more interesting and beautiful women, what SKILLS can you learn that will enable you to do that?
Do you need to learn:
Better ways of meeting women?
Some fashion/style techniques to improve your first impression & overall vibe?
Lifestyle skills that naturally grow self-esteem and naturally attract women?
Those are my suggestions, as a 3-fold attack on one’s lack of dating success. In order to learn those, you’ll need people from the outside to HELP.
To learn anything requires input/energy from the outside - and availing yourself of the right resources is so important. So, be very careful what or who you choose to allow this privilege.
The final requirement? Discipline, and a willingness to be uncomfortable. They go hand in hand because discipline is easy when doing something I like (so, it feels comfortable). But, it isn’t so easy when I am doing something I don’t like.
Makes sense?
So, if you want to create a little accountability - post YOURS here on the blog (in the comment section below) and you and I can challenge each other to see who can actually complete their list, and the fastest…
Have you scripted your New Year’s Resolutions yet??
Do you even do that?
For many years, I “resolved” to get better with women in the coming year - maybe that’s on your list for ‘09.
I would normally start out strong, going to parties and events to meet people. I’d maybe even do a cold approach.
Luck might even strike a time or two and I’d land a phone number or an email address.
Problem was, I eventually started hitting the same old familiar walls and resistances. I’d quickly find myself back in the same ole ruts, barely sniffing a date for months.
It’s been my experience that in order to CHANGE, I’m going to need HELP. Me and my brain got me into this mess, and I’ll need someone else’s to get me out.
Now?
I’m in love, and live with my girlfriend - all after years of taking meaningful action towards my goal, I’ve made it - and you can too.
When I finally got sick and tired of going it alone, I found help that worked for me.
I had been reading eletters and ebooks for a while (Ross Jeffries and DYD were the only things around then), but nothing helped me as much as LIVE training.
If you’re looking to scale the walls of your resistances in 2009, you will need help. I suggest you work with someone who has what you want.
If you want an awesome girlfriend, I’m able to help you.
In case you haven’t looked at this blog recently, or if you aren’t on my mailing list, I’m making a very special offer to those guys who will simply register to work 1-1 with me in 2009. All you must do to secure the “deal” is to submit your deposit before 11:59pm tonight, 12/31 (that’s eastern time btw).
You can read all about the offer (and the uniquely low price) by going here:
You should know, that I have a number of guys who are planning to fly here to NYC to work with me. There are others who aren’t planning for their 1-1 until October 2009 even - BUT, their deposits are “in”, under the wire.
If you’re really ready to find the dating and social life you know you deserve…and if you’re ready to start taking meaningful action towards that goal in 2009 (and fulfill those resolutions, instead of having them just fall by the wayside - as usual), then you owe it to yourself to get HELP with your dating and women goals:
I’ve started noticing traffic coming to my site via the Men’s Health site, and realized that the interview I gave them months ago must now be up…and it is, here:
http://snipurl.com/99krm
It’s all about passing tests from women, and there’s some solid feedback there from me and some other guys too.
Also, who else agrees that fireworks and hoopla on New Year’s Eve is WAY overrated? I’m pumped for the bowl games though. UNC lost to WVA, which sucked. But, I’m all about OU for the National Title in the Orange Bowl.
Here are my other picks:
Fiesta - Texas over tOSU
Sugar - Alabama rips Utah
Rose - Penn State over USC (please lord)
Orange - VT over Cincy (does anyone really care?)
I have finally immersed myself into the dating community and bought a few of the most popular programs out there. Here are my reviews:
Pure Personality – by Thundercat
This is a fantastic program. It gives a lot of insightful information that’s definitely worth the money he charges. Just looking at the basic program description will yield such gems as this:
Seriously, what’s with the font? This looks like the default MS Word 1993 times new roman crap that he decided to plaster right onto the main page. The yellow highlighting does wonders for my eyes too – because using italics does not emphasize the main point of the sentence enough for me to understand it properly.
Actually, in all honesty, let me save you some money here – instead of paying $500 for this, I strongly suggest you go to your supermarket and pay $1.49 for a cabbage. Go home, and then smash the cabbage all over your face. Science has already proven that this will give you the exact same results.
RSD: The Blueprint Decoded
This is probably the genius masterpiece composed by the boy wonder himself Tyler “Owen Cook” Durden (the name makes me want to sarge chicks and make out with 10s left and right).
The Blueprint Decoded Will AWAKEN YOU To The Most Profound Secrets Of “Dating Mastery And Actualization” Like A Syringe Of Adrenaline Punched Straight Into Your Heart
Can I translate this to how I understand this? Here is what I read:
The Blueprint Decoded WILL EAT OPEN YOUR PANTS To The Most Profound Exhaust Pipe Secrets Of Being A Retard. Like A Syringe Of Douche-bag Punched Straight Into your Anus.
When I decided to buy this product, this is the line that sold me:
It’s what gives you the power to “draw women into your reality” and pass their “congruence tests” automatically without even trying.
That just sounds really stupid, which is why I threw it in here. I don’t have anything to add.
Some Shit Product I Don’t Know The Name Of – by Stephane Hemon
Modern research suggests that those who take this course – or use this product (whatever the hell it is – I don’t know and I don’t care) turn into a cocaine using creeper. You can save yourself the $700 or whatever he charges by head-butting your monitor 74 times then carving out your brain stem with a cheese knife.
10 second attraction - by Mehow
I hate this guy’s name.
My program is better, but it’s 10 steps instead of 10 seconds:
1) Pull down your pants.
2) Sit on the toilet.
3) Spread your ass-cheeks.
4) Expel poo out of your bum.
5) Stand up.
6) Wipe the excess poo off.
7) Call any woman you know on your cell phone.
8) Once she answers yell “I TOOK A SHIIIIITTTT.”
9) Hang up the phone.
10) Flush the toilet.
This will provide you with instant success with women!
Double Your Dating – By David Deangelo
Now this guy is the big cheese of the dating community I guess. He has convinced me that he is, in fact, the best there is. The only problem I had with the program was when I opened the book, the only thing it said was:
My girlfriend works at a bar in Brooklyn, and her boss is Russian. Apparently, Santa has a lover in Russia, and my girlfriend is being asked to dress like “her” on Christmas day.
Russians - can you confirm please?
On an unrelated note…happy holidays everyone. Here’s a wonderful rendition of Jingle Bells for you to enjoy:
The game is simple: I show you a shoe, you guess who wears them. The winner gets a secret prize! Are you ready to begin? Shoe #1
This one was easy - yep, you guessed it, Mystery wears these. We all know about the stupid furry hat, right? Well isn’t it great to know that there are matching furry stupid boots along with the hat? Thank you.
Shoe #2
This one was a little tougher. Need a hint? They are Chinese shoes. Here is what Papa had to say about them: “When I am AMOGing a 10 set, these help me reduce the 3 second rule to a hook point.”
Shoe #3
Crocs – who else would wear the douchiest shoes out there? Of course, the biggest douchebag of them all! Neil Strauss! Here is what Neil had to say about his shoes: “They help build a false time constraint when in the DHV zone about to do a kiss close. I am a douchebag too, so that’s why I wear them.”
Shoe #4
This one might be a bit obvious. Can you get it? No? The answer is: Tyler Durden (Owen Cook).
He actually wears these out in the field when making-out with 10’s left and right. They also distract girls from his dirty looking gross hair.
Shoe #5
These boots belong to Sean Stephenson to help him do more slam dunks.
Shoe #6
These are blood-soaked combat boots. Can you guess whose they are? Here is a hint: They have seen over 70 fights. That’s right, these belong to Gunwitch. I heard, they were used to beat Matador into a bloody pulp. That’s just what I heard.
That’s the end of the game. There is no prize because you’re a sucker.
If I told you that there was a club where the women were hot, single, looking to meet guys, and MIGHT even approach you if you know what you’re doing - would you go?
Of Course you would.
That’s exactly what is happening this very second on a variety of great online dating sites (which we list on the podcast).
Dave M has a system for kicking major butt in online dating. It’s the very system that created Neil Strauss’ (now) legendary profile on match.com (yielding him some 100+ emails in a month from HOT women), as well as a steady diet of beautiful women into Dave’s social life for some years now.
So, we carved out some time the other day to talk - and it’s live now as a podcast. Get it here (free, btw):
1) Which dating services are good RIGHT NOW? (ie, match.com, nerve.com etc…)
2) What pictures are GOOD and which are NOT? No surprise - but this might be the biggest aspect to get handled
3) What makes a good headline (and what you definitely, certainly, should never do in your headline)
4) The “meeting women online” taboo factor, and why it’s not even close to an issue
5) Why, if you are a single guy looking to improve his dating life, you MUST get in the game online (& why women WANT you to)
It’s around 40 minutes, and you’ll walk away with a BUNCH of techniques that you can use right away, and start seeing some results from fast.
First - the vid. Here’s a client of mine from the weekend:
And, here’s what he wrote to me the next day:
Stephen,
I got a lot out of the time we spent yesterday. I’m excited about continuing this momentum and making a lot of positive changes in my life. In fact, I went out last night with some friends and focused mainly on increasing my energy. The results were great. I talked to a lot of people, found that I had quite a bit to say (even though at times I found myself feeling reticent), and approached at least 10 different girls - maybe 20. It was great for me to put this into action immediately and see favorable results. I actually started to feel the difference between choosing to talk to girls that I found interesting vs. merely talking to them to try to win their approval. ”
Phil
NYC
That speaks for itself. Now, my “gentle” reminder :
If you register for a 1-1 with me before Dec 31, 2008 @11:59pm (just “register”, we can work together AFTER that…even a year later - all you have to do is submit a deposit for now) you’ll also get:
Instantly
How To Get A Girlfriend eBook
Natural Attraction 7-Day Audio Program
Immediately after we work together
The Natural Art of the Pick-Up
1/2 hour coaching session (30 days from our 1-1)
Incidentally, I’m free next week on Dec 17th & 18th in case you want to work on this thru the holidays (girls love meeting boys over the holidays, I might add)
"The Red Queen" by Matt Ridley
"Way of the Superior Man" by David Deida
"The Game" by Neil Strauss
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